Your mind is ALWAYS asking the SAME question:
“AM I SAFE?”
With or without your awareness, and in every area of your life, your mind is always trying to keep you safe…socially, spiritually, financially, physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. If the answer to “Am I safe?” isn’t obvious, your mind will try to find meaning, order and predictability as a means to create and control your internal sense of safety. You will try to make connections, create stories and form alliances that help you think, feel and move from instability to stability, insecurity to security.
In your search for the safety provided by meaning, order and predictability, your mind asks other questions like:
Who am I?
How does the world work?
Why am I in this circumstance?
Am I progressing?
How can I get ahead?
Am I connected?
Am I valued?
Can you see how the answers to these questions might create a sense of well-being? We literally create our own reality and our own happiness or misery by how we answer these questions.
Emotional regulation starts in childhood and becomes increasingly consequential throughout adolescence and adulthood. Your ability to experience and negotiate increasingly complex circumstances will determine not only your sense of well-being, but your sense of self. Thoughts and emotions lead to actions that affect your drive, your engagement, your performance and your connection to yourself and others. As you increasingly raise and refine your own awareness as to how your nervous system protects itself, you’ll learn to trust and rely on the brilliance and safety of your own intuitive wisdom.
Don’t waste precious time trying to secure your future while unconsciously reacting to your past. Instead, learn to recognize and regulate the patterns of your present nervous system as it faithfully works to protect you. Learn to recognize your thoughts and consciously regulate your emotions by practicing meeting the needs of your vigilant nervous system every day.
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